timeline of events
1) he had played a game with the third player prior to this game (who i'll leave nameless because he's not important and to respect privacy, no reason to involve him unnecessarily)
2) he was pretty rude to the third player about his speed and his play
3) kept posting things like "GO GO GO GO ****ING GO" in chat
4) his rudeness didn't bother me too much at this point, my typical reaction is "ok you can be rude, i'll just beat you and see how rude you are now"
5) right before i was about to win, he all of a sudden stopped making moves and eventually dropped the game
6) I put a call out in circle for help to finish the game, which DamageIncSKB was generous enough to respond to
7) After damage had shown up, but before he had a chance to actually join, yogabbagabba showed back up, so we let him join (he had said his battery was almost dead earlier)

We waited a few minutes for him to either finish his turn or at least offer a trade or play a card and he continued to sit there.
9) I finally got frustrated and did a /remove, the other guy outranked me and accepted it.
10) Damage joined and ended the turn. I won on the very next move (I would have won no matter what, even on a 7)
11) yogabbagabba starts /telling me accusing me of being a cheater. it was late and i was tired and didnt want to play more or deal with him so i logged off.
12) the next day (this morning) i hear from Damage that he had been harassing him from game to game after i was gone. and now we're where we are.
Damage, I'm really sorry to have involved you in this, I didn't expect it. I will be making sure gunff reads this; though the game was not played in Smallville or EnglishTown, I don't really know how the reeve system works, not sure what can be done, but I felt you guys should know what had happened.